tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6525334973892331389.post8405314364002115458..comments2023-06-12T11:50:19.679-04:00Comments on not the jet set: We're (still!) Debt Free!Michaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05449100145223553747noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6525334973892331389.post-87165322349899526932008-06-30T17:20:00.000-04:002008-06-30T17:20:00.000-04:00Glad you enjoyed the post. My wife was likely say...Glad you enjoyed the post. My wife was likely saying the same exact thing when we were getting started 4-1/2 years ago. This is a fabulous question and I'm glad you asked. <BR/><BR/>For some of it, it was the simple math of the stupid spending habits. Like the 'Coke at the corner store' story. I was litterlly doing that ~3 times a week, which would buy a whole 12-pack. One of those duh moments. But the other half of that one was, "Ok, then buy me a 12-pack". <BR/><BR/>Another part was seeing the problem. No one will listen to a solution without first recognizing the problem. See the debt, and how it controls our income. See the budget and how it doesn't balance. See our bleak future if we don't get it together NOW.<BR/><BR/>But what really did it, what really got me to open my mind and listen to begin with? It's the part that all of those 'good-debt', 'listen to the math', personal finance goobers overlook: the personal side. It was when my wife sat down and talked with me (not at me) about this stuff. It was when the woman that I love a respect more than anything told me how increadibly important this was to her. Not that I get 'on-board'. Not even that I curb my spending. But that I give it a try. Buy tickets and go to the Live event. We could discuss other stuff from there, but all she wanted (surprise, surprise, guys) was for me to listen.<BR/><BR/>You can do it. But make it about the two of you. It's not "Dave said...". It's not "let's get gung-ho about investing and budgets". It's about the two of you, and your future together.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6525334973892331389.post-41683130431497199512008-06-30T16:19:00.000-04:002008-06-30T16:19:00.000-04:00What would you say made the biggest impact in gett...What would you say made the biggest impact in getting you on board? I ask this as I sit her with almost $40,000 in debt as you once did. My only problem in all this is getting my husband to come around. He just doesn't "get it". How did you finally get it? He won't read any books, he won't change his spending habits. I am spinning my wheels. We are doing better, but I feel like if I could get him more involved he could help me find even more ways to get our debt paid off. Thanks!! Great story btw!!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14765403942285370190noreply@blogger.com